I know I’m not yet the person I want to be — and honestly, I don’t think any of us fully are. Somewhere between who we are right now and who we hope to become, there’s this quiet space of becoming — a place filled with questions, doubts, progress, setbacks, effort, and exhaustion all tangled together.
Over the past month, I’ve been spending a lot of time reflecting on my life — the relationships in it, the roles I carry, the ways people add to my world, and the ways they sometimes take from it. And in the middle of all that thinking, one question keeps circling in my mind:
How do I actually become the version of myself I dream of being?
I know the qualities I want to grow into. I know the areas I want to strengthen. I can see glimpses of that future version of me — the calmer me, the more grounded me, the one who handles life with grace, patience, confidence, and steadiness.
But the part I struggle with is the how.
It’s not that I’m not trying. I really am. But somewhere in the busyness of real life — responsibilities, deadlines, emotions, stress, exhaustion — that vision of who I want to be gets lost. I’ll feel like I’m on the right track one day… and by the next, I’m overwhelmed, reactive, tired, or discouraged again. Then the cycle resets, and I wake up feeling like I’m starting over — again and again.
And sometimes that makes me question myself.
Am I expecting too much of myself?
Am I not disciplined enough?
Do I just not want it badly enough?
Or… is it something deeper?
Because structure and routine sound beautiful in theory — but real life doesn’t always cooperate. There never seems to be enough time in a day. Someone always needs something. Something always interrupts. And somewhere in the middle of caring, giving, doing, fixing, and surviving… I get lost in the background.
I think a lot of us do.
We learn to show up for everyone else before we show up for ourselves. We juggle responsibilities, relationships, emotions, and expectations — and then we question why becoming our “best self” feels so hard. We tell ourselves we should be further ahead. We beat ourselves up for not changing fast enough. We forget that growth is not a straight line — it’s a winding path with pauses, detours, and rest stops along the way.
And maybe the problem isn’t that we aren’t trying hard enough.
Maybe the problem is that we’re trying to grow in an environment that never gives us room to breathe.
Maybe the real work isn’t forcing ourselves into perfection but learning self-compassion while we’re still becoming.
Growth doesn’t always look like a big, dramatic transformation. Sometimes it looks like tiny shifts — choosing a calmer reaction, pausing before speaking, listening to your own needs, saying no when you’d normally say yes. Sometimes growth looks invisible — but that doesn’t make it meaningless.
Maybe becoming the person I want to be isn’t about suddenly arriving there one day.
Maybe it’s about learning to support myself on the days I fall short, not just the days I succeed. It’s about understanding that life will always be busy, relationships will always be complex, and balance isn’t something you find; it’s something you practice, over and over again.
I’m still figuring it out. I’m still learning. I’m still becoming.
And maybe… that means I’m already on my way.
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